Comments on: What Matters

By: annegalivan

annegalivan — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 10:22:53 +0000

I totallly agree, Johnny. I learned this all too well in 1997 when my brother was killed by a drunk driver.

My husband and I have had financial problems the entire 28 years of our marriage. But after the devastation that my brother's death caused, I no longer cared. At least, I didn't care in the sense that I stress out about money anymore. I still act responsibly, I just refuse to let the problems cause me a moment's stress because it really DOESN'T matter.

And you're right. I get totally p****d at people calling situations a "tragedy" that aren't a tragedy at all. If no one's dead (or in very real danger of that happening) - then it's not tragedy. It's stressful, it may be inconvenient, it may even cause you to shed a few tears of frustration...but it's not a freakin' tragedy.

By: Mel

Mel — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 13:12:06 +0000

Sometimes I think the urgency of an extreme situation helps to clarify things. Ask most people – would you sacrifice your child or partner for your job, and they would look at you as if you're mad. Of course they wouldn't.
But day by day, in dribs and drabs, many of us do just that. The hour on the weekend. The missed date. The day you work late and can't meet up with your parent.
As I write this I look at myself and realise I'm just as guilty. It's so easy to 'finish off' some urgent work thing when the sun is shining and someone you love is just itching to spend some time with you…. but as they say, no-one ever wished they had spent more time at the office on their death bed.
I'm off to bed, and tomorrow I'll be putting it into practice. For real.

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By: Judy MacDonald

Judy MacDonald — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:58:39 +0000

Thanks, Johnny. It is awesome to have the perspective, though it would have been nice if it showed up without quite so much drama The trick now is finding ways to hold on to the perspective as normal life starts creeping back in…

By: Johnny B. Truant

Johnny B. Truant — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 00:00:01 +0000

Wow, so sorry to hear about your losses! It'll put things right in perspective…