Comments on: Divorce is Weird.

By: Peggie

Peggie — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 19:12:49 +0000

In both my divorces, we managed to avoid the “angries” to be honest, in marriage #2 there had been enough angry times that by the time we were through, we were gracious, and humble and ready to wish the other the best. I think each couple and individual in the couple is unique and we only end up in the “angries” if we buy into the belief that that HAS to happen.

I'm not being pollyanna here Dr and I do respect your experience, but I've had a TON of growth and learning as a result of 2 unmarriages and as odd as it sounds, I wouldn't change it for anything because that's how I got to where I am today – madly in love in a solid, adult, and ever growing partnership.

By: Peggie

Peggie — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 19:08:07 +0000

Divorce is weird. and it's freeing. but it is important to own the feelings as you feel them and NOT try to keep a chin up for anyone else. In both my divorces there were no children to “be strong” for, but there were friends, family and even outsiders that somehow I felt responsible to. I also learned a lot about blame. blame doesn't work. Great video and thanks for sharing! (i'd love to see your “follow up” in a couple of years after living divorced for a while too)

By: THE Molly Buckley

THE Molly Buckley — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 01:40:16 +0000

What an inspiring post, Elizabeth! I started reading your blog very recently and stumbled upon this post and felt compelled to comment. I completely agree with you - you don't have to be happy all the time. I really admire your strength in your transparency and sharing your tough times with the world.

Although I'm not going through a divorce, I'm not even married, I am broke. I quit my awesome job, moved to a new state, can't find a job in my new state, and I'm broke. I'm working retail making no money and it sucks. But I almost feel ashamed to talk about it because I feel like I'm diminishing my talents by admitting a sense of defeat.

Which I know will eventually change. But I just want to say you inspired me, so thanks!

By: THE Molly Buckley

THE Molly Buckley — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:40:16 +0000

By: ElizabethPW

ElizabethPW — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 02:26:14 +0000

I mostly use a flip mino hd, and occasionally the built in camera in
my iMac. :)

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By: bellwether1

bellwether1 — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 13:12:24 +0000

Hi Elizabeth: What kind of camera do you use to record your video blogs? Thanks.

P.S. I admire your straightforwardness.

By: wowisme

wowisme — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:39:22 +0000

Email me and I”ll send you the ebook of “Every Single Girl's Guide to Her Future Husband's Last Divorce”. Lots of tips in there to make sure your amicable split stays that way! We have so much to talk about…

By: Tom Lehner

Tom Lehner — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 16:51:50 +0000

Elisabeth,
I just watched this video though you have sent it to me about a week ago. Divorce is weird – I agree with you. I am sorry you have to go through this as well though I cant understand why a man would leave you. OK but thats my thoughts. I know what you are going through since I am divorced myself. An extreme bad divorce and today is my sons Birthday and I dont know why I watch this video exactly today since the past 36 hours have been the blank horror emotionally to me. I know what you are going through and I can read in your eyes. I am sorry for that and I have you in my thoughts and prayers.

Darn I sit here and want to make a good and sensable comment to comfort you but I just dont know how. YOu spread so much confidence. My thoughts are with you.
Tom

By: Elizabeth Potts Weinstein

Elizabeth Potts Weinstein — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 20:55:54 +0000

I disagree that angry fighting is inevitable, and choose to opt-out of that scenario. No thanks!

By: drjimsellner PhD.,DipC.

drjimsellner PhD.,DipC. — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:11:16 +0000

Hi,
UUUmmm yes divorce.
After counseling about 1000 couples over the years, 40% of whom were on the divorce path.
Just a heads up, be prepared for the “friendlies” to stop and the angry “conversations” to take place.
it is part of the ending process as our hurt overwhelms our rational part of our brain.
The brain’s function is to help the person survive. The end of romantic love feels like a death coming on. It isn’t but brain thinks so.
We have to muster up all the power of our mind vs. our brain to keep our Emotional Intelligence intact.
As much energy we felt in falling in love is the same amount – negatively – we’ll feel as we fall out of romantic love.
If you try to reason yourself out of this event you will inhibit your learning and interfere with getting onto your next healthy relationship – should you choose to take the assignment.
drjimsellnerPhD.,DipC.